Ever started something, invested a ton of time into it, and then at some point it seems like you hit a wall? It’s hard to figure out when to pull the plug. You’ve spent so much time on it (whatever that IT is) that you feel like you’ve wasted it all if you quit. But, going forward is just wasting more. Grrrr. What to do?
It’s a tough decision, friends. And perhaps you feel foolish for spending as much time as you did on it, but you were hopeful, right? Nothing wrong with that. And perhaps, the next time, you’ll figure it out sooner. We’re ever hopeful, right?
My son and I are going thru this together right now. He and his girlfriend are/may be breaking up. And the poor guy feels like all the love/time/money he spent on her is now wasted. I just spent over a year on a manuscript that I am shelving. And I feel like all the love/time/effort has been wasted. But wait… what if IT isn’t a waste? What if it’s just all part of the process? What if it’s one more step in the right direction?
My son may be completely heartbroken, but IT wasn’t a waste because he learned a lot during their several years together. He learned how to love another person, how to take on responsibility, how to not be selfish. He grew up and matured as a man. And, all of these experiences including the heartbreak have shaped him into a person that is better prepared for his next relationship.
I may be frustrated, but IT wasn’t a waste because I learned a lot about my craft, that I can do editing and rewriting, that I can finish a story, that I can take criticism and rejection positively, that I am fully committed to this career. I’ve grown as a writer and my next story will be even better, and I will continue to grow so that I am prepared when I finally get published.
You’ll figure it out too – just remember to take all the good out of IT that you can find. Learn, grow, repeat!